letting girls down gently

themat.d · Post by **themat.d** » Tue Dec 13, 2005 3:10 pm

ive been seeing two girls over the lastcouple of weeks,nothing serious just dates.
ive now come to the point that ive chosen one of them to...ahem...take things further with.
my question is:how do i tell the other one i dont want to see her again?
to set the scene a bit,the one im going to carry on seeing,i met at drop beats not bombs,she's funny,clever(a post-grad law student) and loves her tunes.

the one i dont want to see anymore is feisty,a waitress,into kick-boxing and likes chart music

ive only seen both of them a coupla times,so do i just not text the kick boxer,or send her a nice text to say thanks but no thanks,or what?
any suggestions?

sKoObS-vArIoUs · Post by **sKoObS-vArIoUs** » Tue Dec 13, 2005 3:13 pm

Keep one on emergency stand-by (if ya can...)

ben & lex · Post by **ben & lex** » Tue Dec 13, 2005 3:13 pm

send her a text in the words of homer simpson

welcome to dumpsville . population you

sKoObS-vArIoUs · Post by **sKoObS-vArIoUs** » Tue Dec 13, 2005 3:15 pm

Or try this one...

In an ideal world, you and I would be together forever. However... (insert lame excuse here)

foxington · Post by **foxington** » Tue Dec 13, 2005 3:19 pm

if it's only been a few dates over a couple of weeks then don't sweat it, just tell her you have the ebola virus and so will be too busy trying to stop your intestines falling out of your arsehole to see her anymore

pppp · Post by **pppp** » Tue Dec 13, 2005 3:20 pm

dont bother with either of them. just go after strat .

Mrs.D · Post by **Mrs.D** » Tue Dec 13, 2005 3:20 pm

call her and be open and honest-ish with her...just tell her your not interested! she might be hurt or be angry for a little bit, but in the end honesty is the best policy...

liz melody · Post by **liz melody** » Tue Dec 13, 2005 3:23 pm

No reason to feel bad after a few dates but I think texting is a bit rude and cowardly

.I would think a polite telephone conversation with a brief but honest explanation would be nicer. It's not your fault if you like someone better.

foxington · Post by **foxington** » Tue Dec 13, 2005 3:25 pm

era-of-the-unstable wrote:dont bother with either of them. just go after strat .

he'll have to join the queue though

Joebot · Post by **Joebot** » Tue Dec 13, 2005 3:26 pm

shag her then tell her you have [insert horribal deside here]

country cockney · Post by **country cockney** » Tue Dec 13, 2005 3:27 pm

miffy wrote:call her and be open and honest-ish with her...just tell her your not interested! she might be hurt or be angry for a little bit, but in the end honesty is the best policy...

...err...she's a kickboxer Miff!!

sKoObS-vArIoUs · Post by **sKoObS-vArIoUs** » Tue Dec 13, 2005 3:27 pm

liz melody wrote:...but I think texting is a bit rude and cowardly... an honest explanation would be nicer

Texting is defo the coward's way out

However, I'd go for the "Sorry, I lost your number" approach (if you ever want to hook up again...)

Joebot · Post by **Joebot** » Tue Dec 13, 2005 3:28 pm

send her my way

Mrs.D · Post by **Mrs.D** » Tue Dec 13, 2005 3:41 pm

country cockney wrote:
miffy wrote:call her and be open and honest-ish with her...just tell her your not interested! she might be hurt or be angry for a little bit, but in the end honesty is the best policy...
...err...she's a kickboxer Miff!!

yes and? CC, just cos she does kick boxing it doesn't mean she will kick his ass

honesty is best in cases like this...!

anna b · Post by **anna b** » Tue Dec 13, 2005 3:50 pm

If you've got the balls, you'll be completely honest.....

....there's just no room in your life for a heavy handed geezerbird who's probably creaming her panties at the thought of the forthcoming Take That reunion tour.

xxx

foxington · Post by **foxington** » Tue Dec 13, 2005 4:02 pm

El Huracan · Post by **El Huracan** » Tue Dec 13, 2005 4:05 pm

anna im shocked...

and slightly aroused.

personally i would do the right thing and run away. works everytime. but also depends on how far you have got with her. you seem not to have done her yet wich is a shame. have you received a smelly finger yet?

anna b · Post by **anna b** » Tue Dec 13, 2005 4:15 pm

ditto steelz

xxx

Mrs.D · Post by **Mrs.D** » Tue Dec 13, 2005 4:16 pm

smelly finger? your all class steelz...!

El Huracan · Post by **El Huracan** » Tue Dec 13, 2005 4:20 pm

i thank you....